Couples & Relationship Coaching

In my work with couples (romantic partners, family members, work relationships, etc) I use several models, including IFIO.

IFIO employs the basic principles of IFS (Internal Family Systems Therapy) and applies it to relationships, resulting in a deeper understanding of the parts of oneself and each other that become activated during conflict.

One of the biggest stumbling blocks to healthy communication in relationships is unwittingly stepping on each other’s trauma and vulnerabilities.

I start by tracking the communication patterns of the couple, then we go a bit deeper into the “parts” of each that are getting activated, often using the felt sense of the body to give us more information. The end result is more inner peace in each system and more compassion toward and understanding of oneself and one’s partner.  

My training in Mindfulness-Based Stress Reduction, Non-Violent Communication, and Somatic Experiencing offer additional tools for emotional regulation and connection.

“IFIO (Intimacy from the Inside Out©) uses a systemic approach to heal, improve, and provide relationship help. The IFIO method combines deep intrapsychic work along with interpersonal exploration. It's a powerful relationship therapy model with applications for work with couples and individuals.”

—Toni Herbine-Blank

  • “You are amazing. Everything out of your mouth is gold.”

  • “You have a true gift of making people feel calm, heard and cared about.”

  • “We’re both looking forward to seeing you next week and continuing our work with you. We’ve already made a good deal of progress and we’re both excited to continue.”

  • “Funny, kind, and empathetic, you have made such a welcoming space to discuss often difficult things.”

  • “Thank you for all the tools you have given us. Our quality of life has drastically improved!”

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